Some advice: if you fuck on the first-date, he probably won’t come back for a second. If the sex was hot and he does come back enjoy becoming fuck-buddies, because by fucking on the first-date, you’ve essentially told him by your actions: “I’m easy and definitely not the type of girl you’ll be wanting to take-home or marry, because anyone who I find attractive and who picks up the bill, I’ll let fuck me.”
I’m glad that you read my twitter, and I can appreciate the brass balls it takes to offer someone like me unsolicited advice, but honey, not only are you in way over your head, you’re also wrong about life.
I fuck who I fuck when I fuck because I wanna fuck, and I don’t give a flying fuck whether the people I fuck think I’m the marrying type. That doesn’t make me easy. That makes me hard.
I am the one in command of my own sexual virtue. I am the one who defines that virtue. No one else gets a say in it — not you, not the world, and certainly not some guy I allowed the privilege of fucking me on the first date.
Everything you believe to be true about sexual virtue is a tragic lie instilled in you by a misogynistic, patriarchal culture that is fundamentally terrified of female sexuality, and that bullshit needs to be systematically unlearned. I’d feel sorry for you if you weren’t making yourself part of the problem by spreading around this kind of ignorant, regressive poison.
What a glorious week! I’ve managed to dial it back to a much more reasonable pace at work again after being reminded that I’m not quite invincible. Strangely enough I’ve been at my most productive out of any other point this year, this week, and that’s not including having weird adventures with someone rad and smart and still anonymous! So basically more of the all new all weird all the time same!
I seem to have to keep reminding myself that I’m in pretty much new territory almost constantly at the moment, and that it’s okay if I drop a couple of the plates I have spinning every now and again. I’m getting a lot better, though, at not skimming over the fun and adventure and opportunities to learn that are there in every right now by worrying about what I might have to do next. For me it’s mostly become about doing the work now - not the job, the work - that I know I have to do to become the kind of future me I can trust, right now, to handle the uncertainty. <3!